Adam from Adam's World - uncanny resemblance to a certain friend of ours? =)

This is the best thing you've posted in a long time.

Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu

Can one forgive if the person who wronged them doesn't seek forgiveness?  Isn't that a necessary pre-requisite?  Like Allah (SWT) will forgive all sins (save Shirk), as long as a person asks for it, recognizes that they did wrong, and makes the effort to stop (I don't know what exactly Allah (SWT) will forgive or not, but this is what I was taught).  So how do you forgive someone who wrongs you, but think they did nothing wrong (this is actually a general question I was discussing with someone).

Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu

THANK YOU SO MUCH for posting this. JAZAKALLAH KHAIRum!!! Really.

I had an argumet with my mom about Cheese being legit.

So how do you forgive someone who wrongs you, but think they did nothing wrong (this is actually a general question I was discussing with someone).

That was the focus of this article (and that Hadith), though, right? The bare minimum vs. the best of actions? We don't have to forgive them, it would just make us awesome Muslims and "the most honorable servants" of Allah. =)

Forgiving Others (click)

Question
I have been grievously wronged by someone in the past, and in my heart I am finding it very difficult to forgive him. It constantly bothers me. Will I be deprived of any of Allah's blessings if I do not forgive that person? What is the ruling with regards to not forgiving someone?

Answer
If you can find it in your heart to forgive that person, it would be of great benefit to you. However, it is not obligatory on you to forgive a person if that person has wronged you and refuses to make amends by restoring to you your rights.

However, you should not be unjust to him or refuse to greet him.

It was related in our history that `Umar b. al-Khattâb did not reconcile with the killer of his brother Zayd, even after that man accepted Islam. At the same time, this dislike did not cause `Umar to treat that man harshly or deprive him of any of his rights.

Nonetheless, you should keep in mind Allah’s saying: “Those who spend (freely) whether in prosperity, or in adversity; who restrain their anger, and pardon people; for Allah loves those who do good.” [Sûrah Âl-`Imrân: 134]

This hadith in Action:

`Aishah (May Allah be pleased with her) reported: I asked the Prophet (PBUH) "Have you ever experienced a day harder than the day of the battle of Uhud?'' He replied, "Indeed, I experienced them (dangers) at the hands of your people (i.e., the disbelievers from amongst the Quraish tribe). The hardest treatment I met from them was on the Day of `Aqabah when I went to Ibn `Abd Yalil bin `Abd Kulal (who was one of the chiefs of Ta'if) with the purpose of inviting him to Islam, but he made no response (to my call). So I departed with deep distress. I did not recover until I arrived at Qarn ath-Tha`alib. There, I raised my head and saw a cloud which had cast its shadow on me. I saw in it Jibril (Gabriel) (PBUH) who called me and said: `Indeed, Allah, the Exalted, heard what your people said to you and the response they made to you. And He has sent you the angel in charge of the mountains to order him to do to them what you wish.' Then the angel of the mountains called me, greeted me and said: `O Muhammad, Allah listened to what your people had said to you. I am the angel of the mountains, and my Rubb has sent me to you so that you may give me your orders. (I will carry out your orders). If you wish I will bring together the two mountains that stand opposite to each other at the extremities of Makkah to crush them in between.''' But Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "I rather hope that Allah will raise from among their descendants people as will worship Allah the One, and will not ascribe partners to Him (in worship).''
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

SubhanAllah, just a superficial look at the Seerah will totally just make one wonder, "why not forgive those who have wronged us?" JazaakAllah khair.